Frequently Asked Questions
Q. How many couples attend at one time?
Only one couple participates at a time. This ensures your privacy and confidentiality, and the undivided attention of your mediator.
Q. Where are the weekends held?
The process can be held almost anywhere. The idea is to remove yourselves from the everyday stresses and pressures of daily life so that you can focus solely on your divorce issues for the three days.
Q. Do we stay in the same room?
No. Each party has his and her own suite and the mediator moves between them.
Q. Do we ever see each other?
Every situation is different. There are some couples who work well together and others who do not. There may be times when a party needs to be heard by his or her soon-to-be ex-spouse, and when appropriate, that individual will be given the opportunity. Generally, the parties will remain separated so that the mediator can work with them individually to identify each party's specific issues, goals, and ideas for resolution.
Everything discussed with the mediator is completely confidential and will never be disclosed to the other party without permission. This gives each person the security and assurance to disclose information they feel may be necessary to Tracey, but would not want to be revealed to the other party. This kind of confidentiality also leads to creative brainstorming and powerful ideas that can be used toward resolution.
Q. What is the difference between a mediator and an arbitrator?
A mediator simply facilitates communication between the parties, provides information about what the law might provide in your specific case, and assists with brainstorming creative ideas for settlement. The mediator does not make any decisions -- all decisions are left to the parties. Everything that occurs duing the mediation process is confidential. Arbitrators, on the other hand, act as judges and their decisions are binding. So, in this process, Tracey will act as a mediator for the first two days. The parties resolve as many issues as they can through the mediation process and all agreements they reach are reduced to writing and are binding. Most mediation sessions end with a full settlement agreement. However, if there are any issues that the parties cannot resolve between themselves after two days, the mediator then becomes the arbitrator and decides those last issues for them, using all of the information gathered from the parties during the previous two days. This ensures that all issues will be resolved after the three days, and there is no threat of litigation hanging over the parties at any time during the process.
Q. What about costs?
The flat fee includes the mediator/arbitrator fees; consultations and meetings with Tracey or members of the Destination Divorce staff; and preparation and filing of final documents. Hotel and flight arrangements will be made, as well, with the actual costs--and nothing additional--passed along to the parties.
Q. What forms of payment can I use?
We accept cash, checks, money orders, and credit cards (VISA, Mastercard, and Discover).
Q. When the papers are signed, are we actually divorced?
By the end of the weekend, you will have all of the completed paperwork you will need to be divorced. Our staff will promptly file the documents with the Court upon our return to the office. And although you are not legally divorced until a judge physically signs your Decree, there is nothing further that you will need to do upon your return from your destination except to sit back, relax, and wait for the judge to sign the necessary documents.